What is hatred?

My sister gave birth to a child. As she was teacher in a school, when she joined school after maternity leave, she appointed a maid nurse, Girija, to take care of her child. Girija seemed happy in doing the work. For some time, all went well. One day, my sister recognized that, Girija didn’t feed the baby regularly, in her absence. Sometimes, Girija won't feed it, even if, it was crying. She got quite unhappy about this, as Girija was taking care of the child at her school hours.

So, Girija was expelled from the job and later there were abuses from the Girija's sister for expelling her. It gave way to a prolonged anger between my sister's family and Girija's family.

But, I had a different angle of looking into this series of events.

Actually, Girija's sister found Girija happily living with my sister as a maid. But, she could not see, the unhappy ending like this. So, her abuses were raised out of the love and affection that she had for Girija.

My sister, being naturally careful about her child, out of that love towards her child, had expelled Girija. It was finally love, that was acting in both sides, which created the prolonged anger between the families. This is a simple example to illustrate that, there is neither anger nor hatred as such. All that is called hatred is a manifestation of the love, when it is in some other direction.

I think, if Girija's sister and my sister, both, knew that it is out of their love, that, they were getting angry, they would have acted to better cater needs of their beloved ones, instead of abusing.